About the Project

50 First Dates Project is a response to the lackluster lovelife two wives from Portland, OR found themselves living with their husbands. Each woman is in a different place with her relationship: Erin's marriage is young and very rocky, while Alexiis's is more tried, true...and boring. After attending a friend's wedding and wishing that they could have that same kind of romance, they hit upon the idea of the 50 First Dates Project: 50 "first" dates with their husbands in 90 days to rekindle the lost spark.

Objective
To increase the intimacy in our relationships and make our husbands fall in love with us again.

Rules
50 dates in 90 days
More specifically, 50 dates between July 1, 2012 and September 30, 2012. (That's about 4 dates per week.)

No spending over $10
Putting a low cap on date spending encourages creativity in the dates and saves money. Ideally, though, dates will cost nothing or next-to-nothing.

No talking about the kids for more than 10% of the date
We both have kids, and sometimes it's impossible to avoid talking about them. ("Oh, don't sit there! Hunter spilled his milk in that chair." "Is my make-up okay? Killian threw the color I wanted in the toilet.") But they are not allowed to take up even close to a majority of the conversation.

Dress up
This isn't just a date, it's a first date. Hair? Done. Make-up? On. Clothes? Pulled together. No sweats, no gross old scrunchies.

No arguing
Again, this is a first date. Find a way to make pleasant conversation rather than devolving into arguments (petty or otherwise).

Minimum one hour
Although we're pressed for time, it's hard to call it a date if it's only 10 minutes long. As busy as we are in life, how can we expect to encourage romance if we don't put some time into it?

And one special rule
No first names on the blog (for husbands and children)
This is our blog, and we tell our stories our way. As much as our husbands and children frustrate us sometimes, they don't deserve public association with our expression of that frustration.